John Eades* says the born leader is a myth. It is simply that some people have to work harder than others at becoming one.
If someone tells you they were born a leader, don’t believe them.
No one is born a leader, but people do develop into one.
While some of the most outstanding leaders of all time were born with some leadership DNA, they still had to work to develop their skills.
The question of whether leaders are born or made has been debated for decades.
Leadership Quarterly did some fantastic research; it found 24 per cent of our leadership comes from DNA, while 76 per cent is learned or developed.
I don’t know whether you were born with this leadership DNA or not, but I know you can become a better leader regardless if it comes naturally or not.
For many people, this is a significant change in thinking, but it’s the only way to think if you are going to get better.
Take Ben, a project manager in a manufacturing company, as an example.
For the first five years of his career, he was a team member instead of leading a team.
When he became a head project manager, he was thrust into keeping projects on time and within budget, which meant leading people.
He struggled early in this new role to build strong relationships, set clear standards, and create a culture of accountability.
As the project started to fall behind, Ben realised the problem wasn’t his team; it was his lack of leadership.
After coaching Ben, it became evident that he had many of the skills required to lead successfully, but the problem was that he didn’t think of himself as a leader.
I will share with you what I shared with him.
Thinking of yourself as a leader is a key to becoming one, but you don’t decide you are going to be a leader — others do.
However, most people struggle because, in their minds, leadership is only meant for certain types and kinds of people, not for them.
This couldn’t be further from the truth.
Everyone is called to lead in one way or another, either leading themselves, leading at work, or leading at home.
So if you’re called to lead in some part of your journey, you might as well become a better leader.
Here are some tips on how to do it.
Anchor yourself in belief
Belief is one of these things that most people assume only a few possess.
It couldn’t be further from the truth because belief by definition is trust, faith, or confidence in someone or something.
Everyone can have trust, faith, or confidence in themselves and what they expect to happen in the future.
On a recent episode of the Follow My Lead Podcast, leadership expert, Amy P. Kelly said: “When a leader has belief, it’s a magnet for others to want to be part of it.
“Conversely, if you don’t have belief, no one else around you can.”
Not only is she correct, but it highlights the essential nature of self-belief and the belief in others as a critical element of leadership.
As writer, Michael Korda said: “If you don’t believe in yourself, then who will believe in you?”
Focus on the fundamentals
Leadership, in some ways, is like golf.
For some people who have excellent hand-eye coordination, the game is more manageable than for those that don’t.
Yet even without excellent hand-eye, you can still play the game and get better at it by focusing on the fundamentals — grip, posture, balance, technique, and so on.
If you weren’t born with the natural instincts of leadership, it’s best to lean into leadership fundamentals.
These are things like relationships, communication, standards, accountability, and coaching.
Demonstrate you care
There aren’t many leadership hacks, but simply demonstrating you care about others in each interaction might be one.
Whether leadership comes naturally or not, if people don’t think you care about them as human beings, you won’t go far as a leader.
One of the easiest ways to show you care is by implementing this simple technique within the first minute of every interaction you have.
Within that first minute, decide to care by giving your undivided attention and showing genuine curiosity in the other person.
While this might seem obvious, most leaders don’t have difficulty caring; it’s starting to care.
Leaders are busy and have many things on their mind, so getting in the correct mindset of care in each interaction can be easily forgotten.
If you are among the few people where leadership comes naturally, congratulations, but don’t take it for granted.
Reaching your full leadership potential won’t happen without a lot of hard work and effort.
If leadership doesn’t come naturally, don’t for a second think you can’t be a leader.
By anchoring yourself in belief, focusing on the fundamentals, and demonstrating you care about others, you increase your odds of positively impacting the people you lead.
*John Eades is the Chief Executive of LearnLoft a leadership development company. He is also the host of the Follow My Lead podcast. He can be contacted at johneades.com.
This article first appeared at johneades.com.
