Just as plants lean towards the light, Bruce Kasanoff* learns that people will always prefer the company of their positive colleagues.
The most likable people generate their own energy.
Their attitude does not depend on everything going well and everyone being so grateful for their good work.
They are just positive because they are positive.
I know all the reasons why this is hard. I know what it’s like to be grumpy, discouraged, and frustrated.
I’ve had years in which nothing in my career seemed to be working. Was I positive the whole time?
No — and that was probably a big part of my problem.
Associate Dean of Executive Education at the Ross School of Business at the University of Michigan, Kim Cameron, cites the power of the heliotropic effect.
He writes that this effect is defined as the tendency in all living systems toward that which gives life and away from that which depletes life.
In other words, toward positive energy and away from negative energy.
“All living systems have an inclination toward the positive — for example, plants lean toward the light, people learn and remember positive information faster and better than negative information,” Professor Cameron writes.
“So strategies that capitalise on the positive similarly tend to produce life-giving, flourishing outcomes in individuals and organisations.”
In other words: Don’t fight a natural law.
Let’s consider the opposite of being positive.
When you’re in a room filled with people and someone near you is whining, complaining, and generally criticising or attacking others… what do you do?
My bet is that you move away from him or her.
Yes, you are basically one super-smart, highly mobile plant.
Author of The Positivity Blog, Henrik Edberg has a number of useful suggestions for how to stay positive, three of which I’d like to share here.
Find the optimistic viewpoint in a negative situation.
Mr Henrik asks himself questions such as: “What is one thing that is positive or good about this situation?”
There’s always some way to come up with a good answer to this question, even if the answer is: “I’m going to be so happy when this day is over.”
Cultivate and live in a positive environment.
This is one of my primary rules in life. Your environment always wins.
If you hang out with nasty and sullen people, you will become nasty and sullen.
If you work for a Machiavellian company, you will eventually operate in a Machiavellian manner.
Go slowly.
Most anger is impatience in disguise.
The faster you act, the more likely you are to lose your temper or do something rash.
It takes patience and willpower to remain positive, calm and coherent in the face of difficult challenges.
In Positive Psychology: An Introduction, Martin Seligman writes about the time he was weeding in the garden with his five-year-old daughter.
He yelled at her because she was throwing weeds into the air and generally fooling around. She ran away and then came back.
According to the piece, here’s what happened next:
“Daddy, I want to talk to you.”
“Yes, Nikki?”
“Daddy, do you remember before my fifth birthday?
“From the time I was three to the time I was five, I was a whiner. I whined every day.
“When I turned five, I decided not to whine anymore.
“That was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and if I can stop whining, you can stop being such a grouch.”
At that moment, Dr Seligman resolved to change.
At this moment, you can do the same.
*Bruce Kasanoff is an executive coach and social media ghostwriter for entrepreneurs. He can be contacted at kasanoff.com.
This article first appeared at kasanoff.com.
