27 September 2023

Divorcing or losing a spouse: What to do financially?

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Lane Marmon says neither situation is easy, and trying to figure out the financial side of things can be especially difficult so she has some steps to help get finances in order.

The loss and grief following a divorce or a spouse’s sudden death can feel overwhelming.

Uncoupling a marriage does not end a relationship.

Decisions about money, the division of assets and possibly parenting must be shared between the separating spouses for quite some time.

The sudden death of a spouse, on the other hand, often puts the surviving spouse in the unenviable position of finding a way forward alone.

It can be challenging to manage the daunting financial repercussions that come from these life changes.

I’m a new widow. Who are the experts I should consult?

In both cases of divorce and loss, I recommend that you find a trusted person.

It can be a friend or relative who is honest and won’t take advantage of you when you’re the most vulnerable and likely to make emotional decisions vs. rational ones.

You’ve decided to uncouple. What happens now?

In many marriages, one spouse takes the lead on the finances and taxes, and the other relies on that person to make smart decisions on behalf of the partnership. When you get divorced, the first steps anyone should take is to put together a basic financial affidavit — a document that outlines your income, expenses, assets and liabilities — and a balance sheet — a document that outlines the marital assets and liabilities.

For some, this is a daunting task but a necessary one, as it helps you to understand what you have and how it is held.

In many jurisdictions, the division of assets is a final one.

Understanding what your income, expenses, assets and liabilities are will help you to back into the financial settlement that you need and want. These are also the basic tools that are required to create a cash-flow analysis.

When drafting a settlement, there are many ways that assets can be divided.

For example, the marital residence can be sold, and the proceeds from the sale and all other assets are simply divided equally down the middle. That is one way to do it, but often does not make sense given the circumstances.

Let’s say one party (we will call her Jane) wants to keep the marital home until the children start college. How do you compensate the party not receiving the house (we will call him John) for his equity in the house?

This can be accomplished in many ways.

You could give John his equitable share of the house as an additional distribution from the parties’ brokerage account.

In the alternative, John could agree to wait to get paid his share of the equity until the children go to college.

In this scenario, John puts a lien on the property with an appropriate interest rate, and the property is either sold or John is paid what he is owed when the children go to college.

The important thing to remember in each of these examples is that there are many ways to create a settlement. But understanding what you want, what you need and how you are going to get those things in a fair way means that you should understand the tax consequences of receiving each asset, how that asset will work for you (i.e. income-producing, illiquid asset, retirement asset) and how it fits into the overall settlement.

In addition, you need to factor in if you are going to receive child support and/or maintenance/alimony. Keep in mind that any assets you receive as part of a divorce maintain the current cost basis for tax purposes.

Once you have an idea of what a possible settlement may look like, running a cash-flow analysis and a more in depth Monte Carlo analysis can be very helpful to most clients. A Monte Carlo analysis, in this sense, would take the income, expenses, assets and liabilities that were used for the cash flow and apply approximately 1,000 market conditions during the life of the client to see how successful the plan is for the long term even with market volatility.

This will help you understand how your settlement will work for you and support your lifestyle.

In addition, something to consider is whether any of the assets or ongoing payments need to be “insured.”

Let’s say that the father is paying the mother child support and alimony for the next 10 years. If something should happen to the father before the 10-year period has concluded, that income stream would disappear.

The use of life insurance on the father’s life can help to ensure that the mother is receiving funds to cover her expenses and the children’s expenses even if the father passes away.

Lastly, once divorced, it is important to meet with your accountant and estate attorney to go over your new tax situation and make sure your estate will be handled according to your preferences and in a tax-efficient way.

Find your own trusted, professional advisers who can help you navigate your newly found singledom.

Your spouse suddenly passes away. Now what?

Unlike a divorce, the sudden loss of a spouse takes a lot of your choices away and forces you to follow the estate documents or the decision of the probate court regarding how the assets will be distributed. A sudden death highlights how prepared or unprepared a family is.

Should I Hire an Estate Planning Attorney Now That I Am a Widow?

Let’s say Sara and Scott have been married for 10 years and have a 5-year-old child. Scott passes away in an unexpected motor vehicle accident. Scott has a basic will, beneficiary designations on his retirement accounts and a group life insurance policy through his work.

The first thing Sara needs to do is be appointed as the executor/administrator of the estate by the probate court. This will enable her to retitle assets, apply to receive the life insurance proceeds and start working through the estate process.

The assets in Scott’s name receive a step-up in cost basis, helping to eliminate any tax consequences to selling an asset. The group life insurance policy provides some liquidity, as she needs to figure out how she’s going to meet her expenses with her sole income.

When a spouse passes away, going through the previously mentioned exercise of understanding your income, expenses, assets and liabilities helps to instill clarity and outline a basic plan during an emotional time.

Similar to a divorce, your tax situation changes, your income may change, and your expenses, which you once shared, become solely yours. A cash-flow and Monte Carlo simulation, for example, will show you how you are going to fund your expenses or pay off a debt and how long your assets will last.

Once things have settled down, you should meet with your trusted advisers: your estate attorney, accountant and financial adviser. You will need to update your estate documents, understand what your tax filing will look like for the year of the passing as well as subsequent years and work through the investments and the retitling of assets.

Having access to professionals who can assist you will make the process more seamless and less stressful. These individuals can also help you to create building blocks for the new situation you are facing.

Although this is not an exhaustive list, it gives you an idea of the differences between divorce and death and some key things to think about.

This article first appeared on Kiplinger

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