27 September 2023

Aiming high: How the only thing holding us back is ourselves

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Andrew Hackett* believes there is nothing more limiting than the limits we place on ourselves.

If there’s one tragedy in life, it is this.

Billions of people are trapped by their own beliefs into leading lives that are less fulfilling and less amazing than they ought to be.

They have been taught to frame themselves in the negative and their beliefs that they cannot do things are self-fulfilling.

Yet, it is easy to see such beliefs as false when you place them under examination.

Better still, it is relatively simple to restate such beliefs in a true context so that they empower us to succeed rather than cause us to fail.

Here are some limiting beliefs and new ways to see them to free your mind and soul to achieve great things

Limiting Belief – I Can’t Be Me:

“I can’t be me. I might be judged for it.”

It’s easy to see how this might stop someone from embodying their true-self, isn’t it?

If you’re scared that other people are sneering at you, why try at all?

The good news is that you can reject this belief. Try replacing it with these two instead:

“It is not my role in life to please other people.”

“I can be me. There will never, in all of history, be another person like me.”

The good news is that these beliefs are true. They free you from the limiting belief and replace it with a positive.

Limiting Belief – They Might Say No:

This is usually expressed as “I can’t ask for what I need, what if someone says no?”

The fear of rejection is a peculiar one. It stems from being part of a social species.

It hurts when we are rejected, yet the fear is often debilitating and not real. It just holds us back.

These beliefs are better:

“Everybody hears ‘no’ at some point in life; each ‘no’ carries us closer to ‘yes’.”

“If I don’t ask for something, I probably won’t get it.”

This may be one of the biggest signs of successful people.

When they let go of the fear of rejection, life becomes much easier.

Limiting Belief – I Can’t Trust People:

“I can’t trust people they might betray my trust.”

This might feel true, but in reality, if you don’t trust people, how can you expect to work with them and to benefit from their help and love as you help and love them?

A fear of something that may never come is not your friend.

Many people are completely trustworthy and given your trust they will grow it into something amazing with you.

These beliefs will help you strengthen your bonds with others:

“Unless someone shows they are untrustworthy, they are deserving of my trust.”

“I must trust people, in order to form meaningful relationships.”

If you have a limiting belief in life, it can be reversed.

Nothing you believe needs to be objectively true, unless you really want it to be.

Freedom in life comes from choosing the right beliefs for your mindset.

*Andrew Hackett is a personal redevelopment coach, author and transformational trainer and strategic negotiator based in Canberra. He can be contacted at linkedin.com.

This article first appeared on LinkedIn.

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