Chronically early Gretchen Rubin* has some advice for those who just can’t seem to get to an appointment on time.
Many people have the habit of constantly running late — and they drive themselves, and other people, crazy.
I have the opposite problem — I’m pathologically early, and often arrive places too soon.
This is annoying, as well, but in a different way.
As I write this, I realise that I assume that chronic earliness is very rare.
Maybe it’s not. Are you chronically early?
In any event, more people seem bothered by chronic lateness.
Feeling as though you’re always running 20 minutes behind schedule is an unhappy feeling.
Having to rush, forgetting things in your haste, dealing with annoyed people when you arrive…it’s no fun.
There are many reasons you might be late, but some are particularly common. Are you late because…
You sleep too late?
If you’re so exhausted in the morning that you sleep until the last possible moment, it’s time to think about going to sleep earlier.
Many people don’t get enough sleep, and sleep deprivation is a real drag on your happiness and health.
Try to turn off the light sooner each night.
You try to get one last thing done?
Apparently, this is a common cause of tardiness.
If you always try to answer one more email or put away one more load of laundry before you leave, here’s a way to outwit yourself.
Take a task that you can do when you reach your destination, and leave early.
Tell yourself you need that 10 minutes on the other end to read those brochures or check those figures.
You under-estimate the commute time?
You may tell yourself it takes 20 minutes to get to work, but if it actually takes 40 minutes, you’re going to be chronically late.
Have you exactly identified the time by which you need to leave?
That’s what worked for me for getting my kids to school on time.
You can’t find your keys/wallet/phone/sunglasses?
Nothing is more annoying than searching for lost objects when you’re running late.
Designate a place in your house for these items, and put those things in that spot, every time.
I keep everything important in my backpack, and fortunately the backpack is big enough so it’s always easy to find.
Other people in your house are disorganised?
Your wife can’t find her phone, your son can’t find his Spanish book, so you’re late.
As hard as it is to get yourself organised, it’s even harder to help other people get organised.
Try setting up the ‘key things’ place in your house.
Prod your children to get their school stuff organised the night before — and coax the outfit-changing types to pick their outfits the night before, too.
Get lunches ready etc.
Your co-workers won’t end meetings on time?
This is an exasperating problem.
You’re supposed to be someplace else, but you’re trapped in a meeting that’s going long.
This can be inevitable, but if you find it happening over and over, identify the problem.
Is too little time allotted to meetings that deserve more time?
Is the weekly staff meeting 20 minutes of work crammed into 60 minutes?
If you face this issue repeatedly, there’s probably an identifiable problem — and once you identify it, you can develop strategies to solve it.
These can be sticking to an agenda; circulating information by email; not permitting discussions about contentious philosophical questions not relevant to the tasks at hand, etc.
This last problem is surprisingly widespread, in my experience.
You haven’t considered how your behaviour affects someone else?
A friend was chronically late dropping off her son at sports activities.
Finally he said: “You’re always late dropping me off because it doesn’t affect you, but you’re always on time to pick me up, because you’d be embarrassed to be the last parent at pick-up.”
She was never late again.
You hate your destination so much you want to postpone showing up for as long as possible?
If you dread going to work that much, you’re giving yourself a clear signal you need to think about a change.
*Gretchen Rubin is writes about happiness and habit-formation and has written Better Than Before, The Happiness Project, and Happier at Home. She can be contacted on Twitter @gretchenrubin
This article first appeared on Gretchen’s blogsite.
