Not everyone is an extrovert says Rachel Slifka who has some help for introverts who would like them……
Some people are natural negotiators..
They are the smooth-talkers who always manage to say the right thing to get exactly what they want.
Where most of us are at least somewhat fearful about the idea of negotiation, these people seem to enjoy it.
Negotiating can be especially challenging for introverts, not because they lack confidence, but because negotiations can have a confrontational tone, and often require some posturing and bluffing — which are not communication tools introverts typically use.
Though introverts may be less comfortable with the act of negotiating, they have many strengths that can aid them in the process.
No one is born a good negotiator. Negotiation is a skill, and it takes a lot of practice.
And here are six ways introverts can become stellar negotiators.
- Research and prepare
Introverts tend to flourish when they have researched and prepared in advance.
By researching, you armour yourself with the facts.
This is vital, because you no longer have to rely on your opinion or emotions, both of which can be difficult for introverts to openly share.
Figure out what the going salary is for someone in your location and with a similar level of experience. Collect data from multiple reliable sources. Then create a list of everything you’ve accomplished in the last year.
If you’ve saved the company a significant amount of money, for example, be sure to include that in your documentation.
- Consider the outcome
Think about how the other party might potentially respond to your negotiation request.
For example, if you are asking for a raise, how will you respond if they agree? What if they disagree? What if they completely blow you off?
Assess every possible outcome and how you will handle it. Consider what you’re asking for. Do you have a bottom line?
What would be the bare minimum you hope to gain from having this conversation?
Nothing is worse for an introvert than being thrown for a loop, so be realistic and plan for the unexpected.
- Cut to the chase and ask
So many opportunities are missed because people aren’t sure how to ask for what they want, or are too afraid.
Share your data, get to the point, and ask for what you want.
If the other party doesn’t agree with your terms, it is likely because they either didn’t believe the facts, or they don’t have enough resources to sustain your claim.
Either way, you never know what you can gain unless you ask.
- Show them how it’s mutually beneficial
Make your case for why you deserve what you’re asking for, but also be sure to include what they’ll gain by giving it to you.
A successful negotiation will showcase how this proposition will benefit both parties.
If it’s a promotion you want, for example, point out how you’ll increase the bottom line, or improve the company in this new role.
- Don’t forget to pause
Typically, introverts love to take their time to think about what they’re going to say before they say it. Because of this, any long pauses or any unexpected questions can instill a fear of the unknown. Long pauses, however, can be used to an introvert’s advantage.
If someone asks you a surprising question, don’t hesitate to pause before you respond. While you’re gathering your thoughts, the other person may even offer further explanation or clarification, buying you extra time to make your point.
- Practice, practice, practice
Rehearse everything, from how you will enter the room, how you’ll greet the other party, and how you plan to take hold of the conversation.
Avoid going into in-depth explanations as to why you want what you want. Stick to the facts.
It might feel somewhat silly to practice your negotiation tips, but the more you rehearse, the more your confidence will grow.
Notice if you’re fidgeting, stuttering, or speaking unclearly.
Remember, keep your responses short and to the point to clearly communicate what you’re asking for.
* Rachel Slifka is a freelance writer and human resources professional. She is passionate about helping fellow millennials find success with their finances and careers.
This article first appeared on WiseBread.
